- The 3 day rule: After you get her number leave 3 days before you call to ask her out. Do not call the next day, let alone that evening (remember that scene from Swingers?)– this is not a good look. Some women claim they like this direct approach and there are exceptions (eg on holiday/ if you are both in town for a day or two). Otherwise leaving two days ensures you don’t come across too keen and that you keep control. Likewise if she calls you, return her call a couple of days later. Be careful though, do not over do it. Word of warning – if you leave it too long she will have lost interest and may not remember who you are. The idea behind this is that you don’t come across too keen – afterall you are a busy man with people to see places to go. You want to make her feel special – and that she is special because she has caught your eye and you’ve made time for her.
- Hide the bling: Don’t shower her with lavish treats or gifts too soon (after all rich people stay rich by being careful with their money). Use your first dates to find out if she likes you or is after your wallet. More importantly use the first few dates to find out if you like her.This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t take her somewhere nice, but make sure its somewhere within budget as you will be picking up the bill (she will offer, you will refuse politely, and then she will back down).
- Be mysterious: Don’t open your heart and soul early on. Don’t boast, or tell her how much you earn, or how much your worth. You can even be a bit mysterious about what you do (although don’t scare her into thinking your a criminal). Play hide and seek. She knows the rules. Let her believe she’s in control, but you know otherwise.
- Keep her hidden from your friends: Don’t introduce her to your friends quite yet. Your friends could reveal too much about your former life. She may even try to play you, so do not let her even think about flirting with your friends to make you jealous.
- …And Stay away from hers: Easier said than done. When you meet her friends you start exposing yourself to the wrong people and give the impression that she can invite her friends to go out with the two of you. You may not like them and then you will struggle to spend time apart. Keep her friends away until you are confident enough to meet them.